The 3 Keys to Building Genuine Connection
Have you ever walked away from a conversation feeling truly seen, heard, and understood? Those moments of genuine connection don’t happen by accident. Well, maybe they do, but you can certainly make them happen by developing three key skills:
Is Your Dating Profile Attracting Matches or Just Sitting There?
Is your dating profile a shiny, well-polished car with no fuel — great to look at but going nowhere? You’re definitely not alone if you’re struggling to turn profile views into meaningful connections.
I suspect the problem is that these kinds of profiles answer questions like: “Who are you?”, “What do you do?”, “What do you like?”
But that’s not what makes a profile effective. A great dating profile answers a different question: “What is it like to date you?”
Why You Should Schedule a Video Call Before the First Date
Your screen pings: “It’s a match!” You (or they) bring the Grade A banter, and before you know it, there’s a spark over text. You can’t wait to see their funny/adorable/amazing texts gifs emojis stickers. Perhaps you also check their profile multiple times a day in case you forgot what they looked like.
Before exchanging a few hundred more texts or planning a first date, I suggest scheduling a quick video call. It’s a low-effort, high-value way to connect, confirm, and see if the vibe translates from text to semi-in-person.
Are You Engaging in Anxious Behaviors While Online Dating?
Online dating can be a minefield of emotions, especially if you have an anxious attachment style. Sometimes, these behaviors show up in subtle ways — from the photos you choose to how you respond to a text.
Here’s a quick guide to help you spot whether you’re engaging in anxious behaviors across five key aspects of online dating, as well as how to course-correct for healthier connections.
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Ever buy a book, fully intending to read it, only to watch it gather dust while you rewatch [whatever is in your rotation nowadays]?
How Often Are You Shoulding Yourself?
How often do you tell yourself, “I should do this or that”? Does it inspire you to palp out of your chair to take action, or does it weigh you down like a nagging parent (sorry, parents)?